Monogamy shmonogamy

I might take flack for this, but I do not believe that monogamy is natural. Now, hear me out before you get all defensive or judgemental.

If ppl were left to their own devices, monogamy would be non-existent. Monogamy is a societally imposed norm, not a natural condition. Now, that's not to say I don't believe in practicing monogamy, I'm just saying I don't believe it's natural.

I'm not condonning polygamy/bigamy though ! But if ppl were not raised in a society that imposed monogamy as the norm, I believe that most would have "open" relationships. We are conditioned to believe that monogamy is the correct path.

Speaking of societally imposed norms, society pisses me off. Just because I choose to be single and I don't want to get married and have 2.4 kids with the white picket fence, I'm an outsider. I get pity looks from ppl in couples cuz they feel sorry for me. Apparently, according to society, I should want to get married, start a family, and settle down. But I don't. And that makes me an outsider or defective in some way or something.

I don't believe in marriage. I've seen too many ppl stray or try to stray in relationships that I've lost faith in the sanctity of marriage. And I don't see why I have to spend all this money on one day to prove that I love someone. Why do I need that little piece of paper to show that I love them ? why isn't me telling them that enough. And on that subject, why do ppl feel the need for me to be in a relationship to be happy ? Why can't I be happy being single ? I don't want pity cuz I'm single. I choose to be single. I like being single. I like the freedom of doin' whatever I want whenever I want. I'm tired of getting the pity looks or ppl trying to set me up with anybody and everybody just cuz they think I'll be happier being in a 'couple'.

well, this turned into more or a rant that I had anticipated. oops.

Bond. James Bond.

Ran into James for the first time since I got back from out West.
He's still as yummy as EVER ! with his suits and he oozes charisma and ......*fades off into daydream*

well, I've basically had a crush on him since I met him....so for about 4 yrs now. oy. (didn't really realize it though till about two or three months ago)
I'm thinking it might be time to do something about it.
but it's JAMES ! he's one of the few ppl who I can't 'talk' around....I lose most motor functions. I can sometimes make vowel sounds....

I needed a little pick me up though - so I called G.
Told him to call me sometime if he wanted to go out. He said he would. He's nice. but I think he's too nice for me. But he rides, so that's a plus. I hope he's not all shaggy still though (last time I saw him he had grown his hair out and had a beard - he looked like grizzly adams - clean shaven he's cute though !).

It's all about James though. I don't want to have this crush on him - but I can't get rid of it !!!
Stupid hot james !!! Hmph !

Perspective....

Perspective is funny. I was thinking about that the other day. What if e'eryone perceives things differently but because society has assigned a "label" to e'erything we all think we see the same thing.

What if what I see as "blue" someone else sees as "red" but because society labelled it as "blue" we all think we see it the same way, as blue ? (that so made sense in my head)
so that would account for one person thinking they like two certain colours together and someone else saying they don't - cuz maybe they're seeing them as two completely different colours. Hmm...

Another thing that perplexes me is "relativity".
It's funny how things change depending on the context. Example : you put your hand on a hot woman/man for 10 minutes and it feels like 10 seconds, but put your hand on a hot stove for 10 seconds and it feels like 10 minutes.

Under the sea

You know what would be kool - being a mermaid. Swimming around all day - seeing all the stuff in the ocean. that would be TOO COOL ! and having a singing crab for a friend - too much fun ! and plus, you'd ne'er have to worry about what to wear - seashell bra and you're set. Dunno how comfortable a seashell bra would be but can't be that bad. And I could swim around singing all day !

But then again, if I were a mermaid I'd prolly wish I were on land.

The grass is always greener, as they say. (or, in this case, maybe the seaweed is always greener ?).